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What do I do?

Posted by akamrromance on June 11, 2010

One must sift through the rubble of life and make sense of what to keep and what to discard. ~JF

We all go through periods in our life where we feel like we have lost control,  missing something/someone, or have some serious things to work out in our lives. I know these periods of time can be difficult and I will not say that they are easy to overcome. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and not understand where to start or how to get out of the mess that we may find ourselves in. Where do we start?

~ Mourn: what needs to be mourned. If you have lost something recently that may be what it is but it could run deeper than that.  It very may well be something that happened earlier in your life that you never recognized.

~Acceptance: Accepting what has happened is essential to moving forward in your life. Once you accept something you can begin to heal.

~Learn: I have always been someone who believes that the wise learn from the mistakes that they make. You can also learn from experiences that you made no mistakes at all. Whatever the case may be in your circumstances, always seek to understand and learn.

My heart goes out to the people who go through these periods in their life but also want anyone that is going through one of these periods to understand that it is a chance for you to grow. There are always people in your life that want to help, you just have to let them. Smile and know that life will be okay.


3 Responses to “What do I do?”

  1. Hi Js, I agree. There is definitely growth during this process, be it strength of character, learning who you are and what you want from life. I think also denial and anger are important pieces which precede mourning and acceptance. You can’t rush through to the healing and acceptance without going through those two steps. Mourning the end of relationship is the same as mourning the death of a friend. It takes time, strength, support. I read your blog yesterday and you’re doing a great thing for anyone who may be in the same position – its also a great way to help get yourself through this hard time. I hope you had a good day today. Keep smiling.

    • I agree when you are talking about a lost relationship. This post is not about a relationship. If it were I would agree completely. The anger phase during a breakup can be downright nasty. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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